Ep 58: Gentle is Not Permissive

You've said "stop" three times in a calm voice, and your child keeps going. If you're trying to parent gently but aren't sure where gentle ends and permissive begins, this episode explains the real difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting, and how to hold a limit without yelling.Content note: this episode discusses animal mistreatment. Please listen without little ears nearby.In this episode:What gentle, permissive, and authoritative parenting actually mean, and how they differ from attachment stylesWhy gentle describes how you hold a limit, and permissive describes whether you hold itWhy telling a young child is not the same as showing them, and who holds the safety when the stakes are realHow an adult's apology, and age-fit accountability for the child, help a child grow up with understanding instead of shameGentle and firm belong together. A calm voice works best when the adult is also the one who makes sure the safe thing happens.