The Skills Gap Kid
Your child isn't refusing.
They're stuck.
You might recognize your child in a story about a little fish who everyone underestimated. The world around him saw only what he couldn't do. What they missed was a fish giving absolutely everything he had — just without the support he actually needed. The moment that changed? So did he. Not because he decided to try harder. Because for the first time, he actually could.
Your child is trying. It doesn't look like trying — it looks like defiance, or laziness, or not caring. But what you're actually watching is a child who is missing a foundational skill that everyone around them assumed they already had.
You can't motivate a skill that doesn't exist yet. You have to build it first. And once you do — things shift fast. Because the capacity was always there.
The email on its way to your inbox goes deeper — including exactly where to start, and the episode I'd hand every Skills Gap parent before anything else.
Now that you know how your child's nervous system is wired — Thursday's free training is where you learn to read what each environment is asking of it.
When Everyone Else Says Your Kid Is Fine Free live training with Dr. Kristi · Thursday June 4th · 8pm ET / 5pm PT
Why your child seems like a completely different kid depending on where they are — and what that's actually telling you about their brain.
Can't make it live? Replay available for 7 days.
Your Kid Isn’t Broken. Your Parenting Isn’t Broken
Sometimes, we’re just asking our fish to climb trees.
Dr. Kristi Clarke is a psychologist, behavior analyst, and mom to a kid who changed everything she thought she knew about parenting. [Learn_more_→]
